"I don't remember how it happened but next she spoke as if the test was just a formality, as if I already had gestational diabetes and the baby was already suffering.
My husband tried talking to her, explaining there are better ways to list out the risks than saying my baby will die. Her response was she was "just doing her job." He tried talking to her more than once but she always blamed my anxiety and her need to do her job."
"It's been nearly nine years since the birth of my daughter, and although I've moved on from the birth experience I had, listening to the traumatic birth stories of others has made me want to share my own. I really hope that doctors and hospitals end up reading these stories to improve the care that they give to women giving birth in the future."
"Things need to change. Mothers need to be in charge of their delivery unless it is medically necessary for a doctor to take charge. In that instance the doctor needs to show respect. We as mothers need to be given the information to make informed decisions. Given options for our bodies and babies instead of being told what to do. We shouldn't feel unimportant or like a number/scheduled slot to the doctors delivering our babies."
"I want people to know I'm sure to the midwives and everyone else this just looked like a run-of-the-mill birth. It wasn't long or complicated and both I and my baby were physical healthy, but it's what's on the inside that matters. I hope women reading this can learn from all these experiences and find the courage to say no to disrespectful care providers."
"I feel like I didn’t advocate for myself and didn’t demand explanations to what they were doing and why. I allowed them to unnecessarily intervene. They broke my water and administered pitocin to speed it up. I could have laboured on my own longer since I was progressing just fine."
"The nurse kept trying to push the epidural on me which I had to refuse several times. I'm not sure whether it was because they believed that it would be the best way to deliver or they just wanted to keep me in the bed and control my labour."
"a trend began to emerge that bothered me. While speaking to women of colour, especially those whose first language was not English, I found that they reported having much less choice in how they were treated by their doctors than I did."
"The OB said they might as well deliver her by forceps now, and said out loud "let's give this baby a little more room, shall we", and I heard and felt the scissors cut into me as he gave me an episiotomy."