“It changed me because now I explain to first time moms my experience. I tell them to fight for their rights and if their feelings matter. Don’t ever question your judgement as the person who knows your body best is YOU! I will always share my story because I do not want others to feel alone. I want women to be able to fight for their rights and healthcare. I want other women to believe in your gut and if something feels off, believe it! I will be having my second baby this year. Due to this experience, I am already having flash backs and am nervous to deliver again. But, I now know to be more aggressive and adamant for this baby for both our rights.“
“I had to go to the ER after a month & a half for pelvic pain. I found out I still had tissue inside, so I had to get a D&C and then get restitched up. Now things down there don’t even look right - good thing I don’t wanna be a stripper! On top of that, I’m now waiting to get my child into physio at CHEO as he has torticollis, which (I’ll be finding out but I’m assuming) is from the trauma of his birth.”
“I was in a lot of pain in my ribs and the NICU was quite a walk for me. When I walked straight, my ribs would hurt so bad I couldn’t breathe. I’d asked a nurse if she could help me get to the NICU by wheeling me in a chair. She said “I’ve got better things to be doing than helping you get to the NICU. Get there yourself”. I had to walk there, back and forth to feed him and then go back to pump. I did this constantly barely able to breathe.”
“I was totally alone with my boyfriend and the baby's head coming out. I was literally crossing my legs bawling that she was coming and wouldn’t be able to breathe. The nurse came in so slowly and said, "It’s impossible you dilated that fast", then I opened my legs and she said "DONT PUSH!" and ran out to find the doctor who was ASLEEP!!!!!! My baby was out 5 minutes later.”
"they informed CAS that I was positive for crack/cocaine when in reality, I was not. I was crying telling them this was was a mistake. CAS informed me hospitals don't make these kinds of mistakes and they took my child away for 3 days."
"The nurse gave me an internal exam which confirmed the location of the baby. A doctor then gave me the same exam to reconfirm the location of the baby. Then, a third doctor gave me the same exam yet again, this time without requesting my consent. She was examining me for what seemed like a long time, even joking around with her colleagues while inside of me. I was getting more and more anxious, knowing that this was increasing the risk of infection."
"I had questions and pain and all the nurse would say is "that's normal." I got a call from the NICU that my daughter needed to be fed. I called a nurse for a wheelchair as I couldn't walk and it never came. The NICU called and then said "Well, we have to give her formula as you aren't here." Like I was ignoring my child who was critically ill. I got up and made the long and painful walk in tears."
"In my most vulnerable state I felt ignored and bullied. They were too stubborn to listen and there was nothing that I could do about it. I am not sure if they are desensitized because they see too many pregnant women but they could have saved me from a lot of suffering if only they listened.
This was an experience that I will never forget and it still haunts me today."
"I felt like I had no one to connect to after that. Others viewed it as a good thing for me. I felt all the pain that comes along with miscarriage. That man would never know the pain and loss I felt in that moment and yet he felt it was alright to tell me that this was something I should actually be happy about. It took me a long time to be okay again."