"The nurse instructed a student to check me and I shook my head no a bunch of times but they checked me anyway. [...] This nurse was doing almost everything I asked not to be done. It felt like she was offended by my choice to have a birth plan. [...] As that student checked me I felt myself give in and surrender control. I felt so defeated."
"He had held these test results and called them "lost" for 6 weeks. He knew I was pregnant for 6 weeks and withheld that information only to tell me to 'think about it for five days'"
"I woke up from my c-section to be told that I had a boy. They would not answer me as to where he was or if he was okay. I asked at least 3 times. It wasn't until I asked if he was alive that they answered that he was okay"
"My records showed that the doctor had performed a cervix check prior to waking me up to announce me needing a c-section. I have no memory of this cervix check. I was asleep, He apparently requested consent from me while I was asleep."
"Never has anyone treated me like [that doctor] did! I have been the victim of sexual assault in the past, and even that did not compare to how [she] treated me or how it made me feel. I repeatedly asked her to stop the exam, give me a moment, etc., all of which she ignored. She continued forcefully with the exam, while I cried and writhed in agony. "
"I had questions and pain and all the nurse would say is "that's normal." I got a call from the NICU that my daughter needed to be fed. I called a nurse for a wheelchair as I couldn't walk and it never came. The NICU called and then said "Well, we have to give her formula as you aren't here." Like I was ignoring my child who was critically ill. I got up and made the long and painful walk in tears."
"I filed a complaint with the hospital. It was largely ignored. The birth unit manager told me they didn't have a lot of experience in this area and that she was sorry they had over-reacted. That was it. How could they not have experience with this? I have had no closure because complaints made to them went nowhere.
I wanted my last birth experience to be joyful, I wanted to have those happy memories. They were stolen from me by this incompetent hospital. I will never be the same again."
"My experience in labour was fear and anxiety and shame as my nurse wouldn't even bring me a bed pan. I felt scared and helpless. I felt terrible for my partner and mother who had to watch me go through that.
That being said, the OB on day shift was amazing and made my C-section a collaborative and fear-free experience. Just goes to show that WHO is in your birthing sphere makes a huge difference."